A very interesting point came across to me today as I read an old friend's blog about her life back home. And that point is never forgetting your old friend's.
I know I have addressed this before but on a more vague level. I'm kind of inspired to write about this topic since I've had time to think about it. I normally try not to write 3 blogs in one month since I'm sure the people who read these get tired of reading my crap. But I think this is something that should be important to all of us
Just because someone's life is no longer impacting it now doesn't mean they didn't impact it before and make a piece of you who you are. True, some friends do come and go. But as I thought about this, I started thinking about the friends that have gone out of my life. Some for good. Some linger and make cameo appearances in my life. I thought about these people and what they brought me. All of them gave me a special piece of their personality and lives that helped make me who I am. A lot of the friends I grew up with (with the exception of one) have gone on to things that ruined their lives like alcohol, drugs, crime. All of them seized to make a difference in my life by sophomore year because of these choices. On the inside it disappoints me, but I can't run away from the fact of how much they have meant to me in the past. The times they were there for me. The times we laughed. The times we got in trouble. All the times that made being young all it was supposed to be and more. Some taught me to stick up for myself. Others taught me trust. Others taught me to laugh at myself. Some taught me that loyalty can mean everything when you have nobody else. And to me, that brings up the biggest point as to what it means to be a true friend. It's not always about being self consumed in making your life this giant party to create the illusion it was worth living. It's about making yourself worth knowing. It's about making an impact on others whether you know it or not. I think some of the biggest memories we all have are the ones of the people who were there for us. The people who loved us. The people who broke our hearts. The people closest to us. We tend to forget about people of the past because they are no longer impacting our lives with little thought as to how much they taught us and how much they meant to us.
There are some people who run away from themselves to try to get away from their problems without any answers in reach. We have all been guilty of this at one point or another. But when it comes down to it, in the end, sometimes all we have is who we are. And who we are is largely dependant on our acceptance. Not only of who we are, but of other people. How we accept adversity, forgiveness, and problems with no easy answers. We all know that change in ourselves is inevitable. We move. We love. We hate. We regret. And eventually we die. No amount of moving can leave behind who we are. No amount of experiences can make us forget our foundation of our true being. No amount of time can kill who we truly want to be in life. Like I said, in the end, all we have is ourselves sometimes. But just because a piece of us changes doesn't mean our foundation by which we have lived and based our lives has changed completely. Ideally, we live on a base or foundation of good will and potential. When you get down to the core you can find that in your nature. I think staying who you are and true to yourself is what makes a person worth knowing.
We all put up fronts to protect ourselves from manipulation and rejection. But those fronts are only good for so long if used constantly. I hope that many of you are true to yourselves and don't forget who you are and who made you that way. I hope that many of you have made a difference in others lives, as many of you have done for me. I hope that many of you live life being worth knowing not just worth seeing. I hope no matter where you go in life, you never lose the ability to impact another's life for the better.
Thank you for reading.
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