Lonely People

Whenever I stop and just listen to people, I find myself woefully taken back by what some have to say about their lives. Typically I find that the people who are most depressing are the single ones looking desperately for someone. I hear ridiculous over-dramatic phrases such as, "I need to find my other half," or "I'm destined to be single forever!"

I hate such talk. I think it's such a waste of thought and emotion. Granted, being lonely can really suck. But I feel that people are selling themselves short by looking for their "other half." Why would you consider yourself half a person without someone else? And furthermore, why would you want someone who only considers themselves as half a person without someone else? Doesn't that sound hollow or depressing to anyone else? I frankly, have never thought of myself as half a person in need of the other piece. I've always thought of myself as one whole person despite my faults and flaws. How does any relationship function on the grounds of "I'm only half a person capable of only functioning fully if another person I consider my other half completes me." I wouldn't want to function on the basis of you are me, and I'm you because we are one complete person together. It seems sad that you need another person to be one whole legitimate human being. Wouldn't it make more sense to have someone who also thought of themselves as one person and not half? Being two whole people, hence being a couple and not one.

I don't know why I felt compelled to write this down. It has no real effect on me whether these people find someone else or whether they see themselves as half or one. But I guess it's the logic in me that finds it depressing that people think of themselves as half a person. What's the point of love if you can't fully appreciate yourself first? Then again, I get thinking about all the people I see come through the ER. There is definitely some people who really are half a person and the people they are with are definitely half a person. (or less in many situations.) I don't see a lot of hobos raking in playboy bunnies or supermodels. I'm mostly referring to regular people who sell themselves short. Maybe it's because it's their means of getting attention. Maybe it's because they just don't have much self-esteem. Perhaps it makes some of them feel better to be part of a puzzle rather than part of an elaborate game.